There is Power in Authenticity

I believe that personal and professional development works best when you start with a foundation of being authentic, understanding yourself, and embracing yourself.  Any other starting point has you build your leadership skills on a shaky foundation.

Authentic power is all about being who you are, not who you think you should be.  There is a huge, huge difference between these two points of reference.

When leaders professionally develop based on who they truly are this is a path that always rings with the sincerity of authenticity.  Who they are… and what they do… and how they do it… are congruent.  Authenticity and congruence in a person creates a powerful experience for those they lead, meet, relate to, partner with, and parent.

Creating this authenticity and congruence can be accelerated when we combine the the more traditional principles of leadership and Human Design.

Be Successful Being You

When we build and layer our leadership skills, capabilities and identity on the premise of who we think we should be, we can never truly own it.  It is always, to some extent, a mask.  We, who we are being and how we are being, can never rise to the same level of authenticity. Can never rise to the same level of personal power.

Do leaders progress this way? This path of following should?  Sure.  Some people accomplish a lot going this route.  And while some people can reap success being who they think they should be (but at what cost?), many more people get stopped in their growth and seem to be perpetually stymied and thwarted from obtaining the level of success and accomplishment that they desire.

How do you distinguish who you are from who you think you should be?  Who are we really?  Most people don’t see themselves well or accurately.  If you ask people to describe who they are, they have a tendency to report out on what they aren’t!  What they aren’t good at, what they don’t do well, the flaws they are painfully aware of.

Most people can’t report out, fully, on their essential, positive, inner qualities.

We can get information about ourselves by taking personality and skill assessments.  There are many assessment instruments to choose from.  They can be interesting to take and often reflect back information that makes sense.  But from my perspective, instruments of this type have 2 drawbacks.

One, they assess who we are in this moment which is always a combination of our inner qualities and our adapted self-preservation behaviors.  Therefore we aren’t getting a true picture of who we are without any of our life scars.  And two, they tell us things about ourselves but don’t necessarily give us information on how to live life being ‘that’.

Human Design Gets to Your Very Core

For these reasons, when I found the Human Design system I was immediately intrigued.  Human Design has a way of getting to who you are at your very core:  who you are at your essence, without any protective posturing.  And, Human Design provides an instruction manual!  The subtitle might read, “How to Be Successful Being You.”  For me, this is a game changer.

Human Design gives us insight as to who we are and informs us on how to operate day to day.  Some examples:

  • Should you make decisions in the moment, or should you take time to get clear before choosing.
  • Are you an inherently emotionally rich person or are you picking up on the emotions of others.
  • Should you be making choices from your mind only, or should you be bringing in awareness from other parts of your body.
  • Are you wired to be highly active and always busy, or do you need to pace yourself and stop before you get tired.
  • Are you here to be a big contributor by being in action, or are you better suited to leading, guiding and mentoring.
  • Should you be the one to approach people and initiate all the interactions, or is it better to sit back a bit and respond to what comes towards you.

The entire list is quite long. But you can see even from this short list how impactful this information can be.  It helps create a solid foundation for all subsequent learning and growth.

People start understanding their own Human Design by doing independent research on the internet or having a Human Design Reading with a professional.  If this interests you, please schedule a complimentary 30-minute conversation.  I will give you a mini reading and get your questions answered.

Leadership By Design Model

Let’s take a look at my leadership model which is pictured below…..  this is how I think about personal and professional leadership from my years in the trenches as an Information Technology Manager and my training as a empowerment coach and Human Design expert.

Leadership and Human Design

Unconditionally Embrace Yourself

The first dimension, the foundation, is to always and unconditionally embrace who you are.  This provides you the best foundation on which to grow yourself personally and professionally.

Self acceptance is another way to speak about this layer.  If you don’t accept all of who you are, you are in denial about some aspect of yourself. Being in denial takes a ton of energy!

This all starts with getting a clear picture of who you are and this is where Human Design steps in.  You can read more about Human Design here.  More often than not, when I do a Human Design reading for a client, the very qualities that are their ‘super power’ are the things they are trying to change about themselves.  Or they are the aspects of themselves they hold as negative.

Reframing these self concepts, from a negative to a positive is an important step.  My clients feel seen and validated after their Human Design reading which leads to new confidence and self-acceptance.

You can see examples of these concepts in the bulleted list above and in the case studies below.

Empower Your Authentic Self

Empowering your authentic self is the second dimension.  Empowerment is how you put your life and career in action.  Empowerment skills include such thing as:  owning your self-worth, being 100% responsible, trusting in yourself and others, an ability to make requests and demands and transparent communication.  Empowerment supports us to engage fully and to bring our ideas out into the world.

Without self-empowerment it is hard to make a difference.  Without self-empowerment you are likely to be an erratic leader.  To the extent that you are not able to create change and generate momentum, there is a likely correspondence in your capacity to be self-empowered.

Self-empowerment includes desiring empowerment for others.  Let’s all be empowered.  It is grounded in trust-in-life rather than controlling life.

Curious about your empowerment capacity? I created this Empowerment Assessment to help people see where they are at.

Envision, Plan, Build

Now we get to the final dimension which is to choose what we want to be doing, what it is we want to create. What dreams for our self, business, our family or community do we want to manifest?  What do we want to have happen?  This is where we envision, plan and build.  As we build capacity in the first two dimensions, the ability to make things happen is far easier.  Where we may have been getting blocked before in our progress is no longer an issue.  This is the dimension of acquiring knowledge and skills.

Many of us start with this dimension first.  This is what we do at school and college or when we learn a specialized skill.

When people get stuck in their life and careers, one of the first solutions people turn to is to get more knowledge and skill.  But unless a person is working in alignment with who they are and have some measure of empowerment, gaining another degree or getting another certification is not necessarily going to get to the root of their issue.

It won’t fully resolve their problem and relationship to creating success.

Many People Start at the Top But Never Work Down

I can’t tell you how many clients I have worked with that just want to keep increasing their skills toolbox, but the core issue has to do with authenticity and self-empowerment.

As you grow your capacity for authentic and empowered leadership and then fill your knowledge gaps, the results you create are more significant and longer lasting.  You get into a more productive cycle of personal and professional growth.  The brick wall or the glass ceiling melts away and momentum and vigor is restored.

Approaching personal and professional development in this manner is truly transformative.

I share examples of these concepts in the four case studies below.


Case Study – Jeff the Technologist

Leadership and Human Design

Jeff, a technology consultant, was looking for a new job in the industry. Jeff is one of those professionals that can span the tech world and is also very adept at connecting with people and creating relationships.

He reads all the latest books by leadership gurus and was in high action in his job search.  Twice, he had great job offers fall through at the last minute.  He was getting very discouraged and family finances were reaching a critical state.

Jeff was doing all the ‘right’ things in his job search:  reaching out, staying in contact, and asserting himself during conversations and interviews.  But when I looked at his Human Design, he was going about his search backwards.  Yes, he should be reaching out.  But once he was engaged with a potential employer, he needed to switch gears and not try to drive the process by being assertive.  For his design, which is somewhat rare, he needed simply to be clear about his own value and be in the mode to respond with his brilliance.  Asserting his brilliance would backfire.

While this may sound completely counter-intuitive, it worked.  Jeff now has a great job with a ton of potential. (In fact, since I first wrote this narrative 5 years ago, Jeff has steadily advanced his job and salary.)  We continue to deepen his understanding of his design and use that knowledge to navigate interactions and situations at work.


Case Study – Dave the Business Owner

Leadership and Human Design

Another client, Dave, was in that mode of believing that the only right decisions were snap decisions.  He was continually putting pressure on himself to get things done and then being critical of himself when he would ‘goof off’.  This client runs a very successful service business.  But he wasn’t making the changes needed that would get the business up to a higher level of revenue. He had even hired consultants to provide structure and accountability.

When I looked at Dave’s Human Design I saw that he needs a particularly long time to process decisions and choices.  So the way we work together is very unique.  Our consultations are not focused on deadlines and deliverables.  We spend the majority of our time talking about the what’s and not the how’s.  I support him to get clear about his vision for his business and then encourage him to percolate on the how’s and the next steps.

When he does get clear and chooses to be in action, the results have been phenomenal.  His business has broken through that revenue barrier and business is expanding in exciting ways.  And, as a huge bonus, he is no longer feeling guilty about ‘goofing off’ but truly enjoying life. 


Case Study – Pam and Joe, Married Business Owners

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Pam and Joe are a great example.  Married for over 25 years, they both work a business that involves their property.  Daily communication became critical in a way that wasn’t as necessary as before.  Pam makes decisions quickly and then leaps into action.  Joe has energy that never ends, he can work all night long, literally, but his decision making process is thoughtful, methodical and takes time.

Let me tell you, they were having less and less fun working together.

Simply supporting them to understand the difference and the validity and the value of each of their decision making styles was enough to get them into a renewed state of harmony.  Pam stopped trying to speed Joe up.  Joe stopped trying to block all of Pam’s suggestions.  End result: progress has sped up and they have more balance back in their relationship.

When I support and train people and professionals in communication and decision-making skills, Human Design has stream-lined the entire process.  There is always the tendency to think that ‘our’ way of communicating or making decisions is the way that everyone else does it as well.

So when others confuse us by their actions, not acting like we think they should, the tendency is to put the focus and blame on them.  When what is more true, is that there are a number of valid ways to communicate and make decisions.  When we can understand our own valid approach and appreciate another person’s valid approach,  a new understanding and spirit of collaboration can arise.


Case Study – Cindy the Executive

Leadership and Human Design

I work with a lot of professionals that are high energy, able to accomplish a ton of work in one day, but still experience not moving forward in ways that are most important to them.  One example is Cindy.  Cindy’s design is for maximum energy. Her life force is incredible and this woman is constantly in action.  And, she is always creating results.

But for all the action and results she was generating, she was frustrated with herself and her progress.  She was not confident in the quality of her decision making.  She was both ‘gun shy’ about making decisions at all (based on some previous poor outcomes) and at the same time, harsh with herself for not deciding and moving forward.

When we looked at her Human Design, she is certainly someone who should be in high action on a daily basis.  However, she needs to slow down when it comes time to making decisions (especially new and big decisions) and let herself get clear over time. She needs to give herself permission to savor the decision-making process.

For Cindy, the best formula is to be fully engaged and active with those things she is already clear about while giving new decisions the chance to percolate over time.

Cindy has taken on this practice and as a result, the quality of her decision making has increased and she is off on a new career adventure from a place of confidence she hasn’t experienced before.

In Conclusion

Authenticity and Empowerment have significant, positive impacts on your results and success as a leader.  If you are curious about this process, I invite you to schedule a free 30-minute conversation.

Catherine RiversCatherine Rivers is a Human Design Master Professional Consultant and a Certified Professional Coach. She brings to her clients 20 years as an Information Technology Executive, 16 years as a life and business coach and 13 years of deep study of Human Design. Do you seek transformation? She is a natural catalyst;  intuitive, profound and effective. You can find her at www.catherinerivers.com.